“The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert” by John Gottman, PhD, and Nan Silver is a comprehensive guide to achieving a successful and lasting marriage. Based on extensive research and studies of couples over decades, Gottman identifies key principles that contribute to marital stability and happiness. The book offers practical advice, exercises, and real-life examples to help couples apply these principles in their own relationships.
The seven principles outlined in the book are:
Enhance Your Love Maps: Get to know your partner deeply, including their likes, dislikes, hopes, and dreams.
Nurture Your Fondness and Admiration: Maintain a positive view of your partner, expressing appreciation and respect.
Turn Toward Each Other Instead of Away: Engage in everyday interactions that build connection and intimacy.
Let Your Partner Influence You: Be open to your partner’s input and respect their perspective.
Solve Your Solvable Problems: Address conflicts constructively and find practical solutions to issues that can be resolved.
Overcome Gridlock: Address and manage perpetual problems that may never be fully resolved, finding ways to cope and compromise.
Create Shared Meaning: Build a shared sense of purpose and values, creating a fulfilling and meaningful life together.
Gottman emphasizes the importance of building a strong friendship as the foundation of a successful marriage. He provides strategies for effective communication, conflict resolution, and emotional intimacy, making the book a valuable resource for couples at any stage of their relationship.